I only have experience with the Tendelux IR units so keep that in mind with what I tell you. I have found that the Tendelux units create a hotspot no matter how you mount the darn things. So what I did was install the camera where I wanted it, and then install the IR unit behind/before the camera so any hot spot is out of view of the camera. The Tendelux units provide plenty of IR further out beyond the hot spot they can produce so have your camera aiming out past the hot spot.
Here's a quick sketch to illustrate.
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Have you tried applying some frosted/etched glass window film to diffuse the beam, might well diffuse it too much but I use this on camera IR with good results, I have a post somewhere with a sample, will dig it out. See image below. Available on Amazon/eBay etc. Might need to experiment by adding some to the centre area rather than edges, depending on the config of the illuminators within the unit,.













